> In Response: Are you really Straight?? (from transgenderdate.com)

I’m sure as t women we have asked ourselves once or twice is the man we are talking to really straight or is he only interested because of the extra we have in between our legs. Let’s think about this for a minute. As a society we are brought up to believe that if you have a penis you should like vagina as well as the other way around if you have a vagina you should like penis. What’s in between your legs for most of society determines your sexual orientation. Penis that likes penis is gay vagina that likes vagina is lesbian.  For me I don’t quite believe that sexual orientation is all that black and white but the question that keeps on popping into my head is where do the lines blur into each other and make us into people of equal opportunity for all. bI sexual men or women are said to both like penis and vagina. My experience with most men that are bi who say they are attracted to me  are usually looking over at the cute male waiter across the room more interested in them then the attractive beauty in their face lol jk. It really makes me wonder is this bi man into me or is he just a degree into the blurred line before becoming gay. Then there are those who want their cake and eat it too. They want us as t women to look like women completely and not be a spec away from the main stream view of a beautiful lady but when the curtains are closed and no one is looking behind the closet door they want to play find the sausage in between the sheets.  As a post op women I am condemned by the men who only like the women with the little extra but would you consider them gay straight bi or just a blur of all things.    - Angel1990

I AM STRAIGHT... 

I am not sure again if I will begin to raise some eyebrows, but here is the dish. I know my sexuality more than ever - I still dig chicks with tits as much and sexy butts, I still get turned on on a clean shaven vagina. And it makes my thing hard - on a beautiful scent.

Here is the low down - I am just saying this in my perspective - hate me - disagree - what's the aim of any transgender? I am saying to all effeminates, you all try to female - or wanting to become woman. Where does the line lead to - we are still straight therefore we see as you woman. Then the line here becomes blurry, to those pre-ops, I hope that you realize when we straight guys fall in love thats when the something we call TRUE LOVE kick in. That's when we see things beyond the norm or become blind to what we feel.

We no longer see the labels.

We become happy holding your hand, We become happy having you in my life. And this is the deeper part, we no longer care if you still have that thing in between your legs, it's just an appendage and it's a bonus for us for you to cut it off.

It doesn't make us any gay if we start play with yours. It becomes gay if we do it we cheat and do it on the dsicretes - and that is eeew. It becomes gay if we start seeing your best friend David, and giving him the wink and instead of you. 

I do apologize if I'm bashing the wrong community. But to those pre-ops we see as you still as woman, and that is why our orientation is still the same.

Like I mentioned in my previous blog - we should be ready to what we are geared up for - even you have that front tail. And it takes love to accept it. Isn't that all it that matters.

Here is an article I like to share and I got from the Le Canadian.

Does Dating A Transsexual make me Gay? 

By Jack Rush

(source: http://lecanadian.com/2010/07/27/does-dating-a-transsexual-make-me-gay-2/) 

The short answer is NO. Let me explain why men who date transsexuals are not gay. Firstly, it needs to be known that every man has their own likes and dislikes in terms of sexuality and emotional companionship. Many “straight” men are not as straight as they say they are, but that doesn’t necessarily make them gay or bisexual. Just because society likes to label people with straight, gay or bisexual doesn’t mean everyone fits into those categories. In the Transgender Dating world those terms don’t always match up to reality.

Additonally, transgenderism has nothing to do with sexual orientation.

A lot of men will seek out transsexuals for dating and love because they feel that transsexuals are actually more feminine than genetic women. Yes, that is right….MORE feminine! Additionally, men find that genetic women have a lot of hangups in the bedroom department that they feel transsexuals do not have. While that may be true to some extent, it’s not a hard and fast rule to live by. Transsexuals who were born in a male body, but have female brain chemistry and are truly women stuck in a man’s body until they begin transitioning into a female outer appearance. However, it must be known that nobody should be judged solely on their outward appearance as their are many complicated circumstances that hinder the transitioning process, most of which come from society and financial barriers.

Everyone has a right to date whomever they want to without judgment, however that is just not where society or reality is at these days so I cannot stress enough the importance of living your life in a way that makes YOU happy without worrying about what your friends or neighbors will think.

While some men who date transsexuals may be bisexual, those men who are gay would not be in the slightest interested in dating someone who is NOT actually a man, but a transsexual who embodies everything that is beautiful in a woman.

It is also important to point out that not all transsexual male to female play an active role sexually with their male genitalia. In fact, many transsexuals do plan to have complete SRS (sexual reassignment surgery) at some point in their lives. Men should not approach transsexuals with the expectation that they will always have another penis in the relationship. Transsexuality is not a sexual fetish, but a gendor dismorphic disorder that stems from before birth. That is not to say that being transgender is a “bad” thing or mental illness, it simply is a fact of life which has not yet been fully embraced by most civilized countries.

In closing I applaud those men who are not afraid to say they prefer to date transsexuals and do not worry about what society will think. But please be aware that the greatest sacrifice is made by those who are transgendered and have to struggle with the constant abuse that society and ignorant men prey upon them.


revised 10-18-2011